Will you look at this freaking tree?
I’ve had this graphic on a poster for years; its been rolled up in drawer somewhere. It was given to us at a Jesuit retreat and my friend promptly tacked hers up on her bathroom wall. I forever after had a hard time peeing without feeling highly inadequate.
Out of all these practices I MAYBE do five…six on a good day, year.
Now I kinda like looking at it. I do.
I used to feel bad, like I had so far to go in my search for the perfect mindfulness practice. It was like Oprah’s List of Accomplishments Family Tree to which mine could never compare.
Then I started looking at each one, contemplating (wink) if I would ever have the discipline to undertake the ones I’d never even heard of. Take Lectio Divina for instance. It involves reading passages of the Scriptures and contains four separate steps: read; meditate; pray; contemplate; Blah, blah, blah.
You will never, ever find me doing that. I will seek my enlightenment elsewhere; thank you very much.
Sweatlodge: My husband swears by ’em.
Me? I tried it twice…almost dying from the sweltering heat and the overwhelming smell of body odor and cheesy feet — both times. I came close to death, (very,very slight exaggeration, infinitesimal actually) left the tent; pucked; felt like a hot and sweaty failure and a spiritual hack; shame crawled back in…only to almost die again…all in one long night. Then I tried it again (for five minutes) the next day.
Then I went for pizza.
Never, ever, again.
I have so many stories like that because I was a devoted seeker and that’s what seekers do, we see graphics on a poster, with a tree full of paths to contemplation, and like a white sock, black shoe wearing tourist fresh off the bus, we are anxious to go and see and do them ALL.
I wanted to check each one off my imaginary list (there’s a real list somewhere, who am I kidding), like some eager beaver at a cosmic scavenger hunt; in order to cull the nugget of enlightenment contained within.
But alas, I am only human, and a flawed one at that; so I’ve stuck with the ones that work for me; and that’s the point.
Singing;
meditation;
chanting;
walking meditation;
yoga;
labyrinth walking;
silence;
storytelling.
Those and perhaps a few more work for me; the others — not so much.
My advice?
Try the ones that sound interesting; and don’t feel bad if you hate a few.
As you do that, I promise you’ll find the practice or practices that work for you, the ones that quiet your mind long enough to listen to your heart.
Then squirrel those away in your back pocket or your tool box and use as needed.
I’m thinking Sufi dancing, I haven’t tried that one yet.
Carry on,
xox
