self improvement

Uncertainty and indecision are the two backseat drivers
in life that can really shake you to the core.

They keep you off balance enough that you find yourself walking
in circles, not sure which direction to take.

They keep you distracted by their very presence,
Their voices drowning out any voice of reason, and even the radio!

“Why don’t you know what to do next?” taunts uncertainty.
“Why such a hard time deciding?” scowls indecision.

We are here to tell you:
Sometimes you just don’t know….and that’s okay!

There are times in life, when you’re going to be standing at a crossroads,
checking in with your gut, asking “which way now”? And you’re going to hear

Silence…

Crickets…

And you know what? That’s an answer!

When you check in, when you do all your due diligence,
and all you hear are the voices of those scoundrels 
Uncertainty and indecision,

Stand still
Breathe
It’s going to be fine!

Those two cannot hold up to the scrutiny of courage and faith.
It takes courage to navigate uncertainty.
It take faith to conquer indecision.

They are not scoundrels after all, they are two very powerful
teachers.
Once you make peace with that, you can kick them out of your backseat,
Let go of the wheel, 
turn up the radio, and know that all is well and the answers will come.

It’s like driving your car only looking thru the rear view mirror!

What does it take for someone to earn a place in your life?
Is the criteria complicated?
Are there invisible tests they must pass?
Or do all that apply get accepted?

Trust should be earned. Not given away for free.

People should be approached with an open heart,
but earning a permanent place there, should come with 
a few qualifications.

First and foremost, is the love and trust reciprocated?
It should never feel one sided.

Second, are secrets kept, and confidences held close?
You want to know that your most intimate thoughts and vulnerabilities
won’t be betrayed to others.

Third, are they dependable? Will they be there when you need them?
Will they drop everything in a crisis to be available to you?

If you can answer yes to all three of these questions, 
then and only then, should someone become significant in your circle.

You may even have a couple more criteria of your own that must be met,
But let these three questions be a true litmus test of who you hold 
close and who you keep as an acquaintance.

Not everyone EARNS a place of SIGNIFICANCE in your heart.

Just a reminder here, that all the aches and pains,
and cold and flu symptoms are part of a recalibration.

After big waves of energy come in, they rearrange everything,
the cells of every living thing are shifted,and shuffled.

This is all for the better, but often your bodies need some time to catch up.
That is why you feel so tired, achy and cranky.
It makes you seek solitude and rest, lots of rest.

As these cells recalibrate, they actually vibrate faster, shaking off a 
layer of density, of unwanted, un needed layers of “muck”.
As this “energetic muck” is released, your body responds.

If it chooses to leave quickly, it looks like vomiting and diarrhea.
Chills and sweating. Like the “flu”
So don’t freak out, and don’t yell NO at it!
The more you resist and yell NO, the longer it will take to pass,
And it will pass, so better to just relax into it.

For many of you it presents as a sore throat, and running nose.
Like a “cold”.
Again, it is your body catching up with this new higher energy, 
so now that you remember that, you will just take it easy, and let it pass.

We don’t want to sound like a broken record, but we can hear you complaining,
So here’s our gentle reminder 😉

If you want more of a reminder re read “Recalibration” from earlier this year.

Are you proud of yourself? Of the life you’re leading?
If you’re not, what can you do to correct that?

Some of you have never felt pride in yourselves or your accomplishments.
You have never thought about yourself, or walked thru the world with a sense of pride.
What WE mean by that is, many of you don’t want to seems full of yourselves,
So you self deprecate, almost to a fault.

Now, this can be a tightrope topic.

Look at the definitions of PROUD especially the second one, and LOOK at those synonyms!

PROUD
proud/
adjective
1.
feeling deep pleasure or satisfaction as a result of one’s own achievements, qualities, or possessions or those of someone with whom one is closely associated.
“a proud grandma of three boys”
synonyms: pleased, glad, happy, delighted, joyful, overjoyed, thrilled, satisfied, gratified, content More
antonyms: ashamed
(of an event, achievement, etc.) causing someone to feel this way.
“we have a proud history of innovation”
synonyms: pleasing, gratifying, satisfying, cheering, heartwarming; More
antonyms: shameful
2.
having or showing a high or excessively high opinion of oneself or one’s importance.
“a proud, arrogant man”
having or showing a consciousness of one’s own dignity.
“I was too proud to go home”
SYNONYMS: arrogant, conceited, vain, self-important, full of oneself, puffed up, jumped-up, smug, complacent, disdainful, condescending, scornful, supercilious, snobbish, imperious, pompous, overbearing, bumptious, haughty; More
antonyms: humble, modest
imposing; splendid.
“bulrushes emerge tall and proud from the middle of the pond”
synonyms: magnificent, splendid, resplendent, grand, noble, stately, imposing, dignified, striking, impressive, majestic, glorious, awe-inspiring, awesome, 

Having pride and being proud of yourself has gotten a bad name.
You can appear to be the MOST humble soul on the planet.
But we want you to FEEL proud of yourselves on the INSIDE.
These feelings are not mutually exclusive. You can be humble and feel pride.

We would like you to realize your value, and feel how valuable your life is.
We trust that you will not go off the deep end with this.
Even the people that seem to be all puffed up and boastful 
are a facade.
They overcompensate for their real, hidden feelings of inferiority.

So we’d like to give you an assignment.
Find one thing in your life that you’re doing currently that gives
you a sense of pride inside.
If you don’t know what that feels like, look at the first definition above for help.
Feelings of pleasure,satisfaction,and gratification.

Even if it’s as simple as opening the door for someone,
or giving a homeless man a dollar.
Did you purge and give all your boxes to a charity?
Did you call and wish someone a happy birthday?
Maybe you let someone ahead of you in the checkout line.

Seriously, start there.
These do not have to be huge, we just want you to look for that feeling inside.
After you find this feeling, you will become addicted to it.
You will begin to search for ways to feel that satisfaction with yourself.
And believe us when we say, it becomes contagious.
When you walk thru the world behaving with a sense of pride,
your actions will follow, others will start to “pay it forward”
and this will start a chain reaction.

You will single handedly change the way the world views 
Pride and being Proud.
Well done! We’re proud of you 😉

(This is always a hard one)

Many of you are finding yourselves with the urge to purge!
What we mean by that is, you are thinning things out,
Getting rid of the superfluous things in your life.

This can be junk around the house.
A cluttered office or garage, that has sat that way for years,
suddenly becomes too much to tolerate any longer!
You are open to throwing away things that had “sentimental value”.
Somehow, they no longer have that hold on you.

It’s happening with people too.
And that’s okay.
You’re finding yourself being fine with the fact that you haven’t seen someone 
in ages.
You’re actually better than fine, you’re vaguely relieved.
The effort it takes to find commonality in your conversations,
seems like a waste of time.
We don’t mean that in a cruel way,
it’s just that time seems more precious,
and the people that you spend it with have to feel good.
No more going thru the motions just to be polite.

There is a benefit here.
As you set these old acquaintances aside, 
they will feel set free as well.
It takes a lot of energy to maintain a relationship that has run its course.
It is psychically exhausting.
If it fades away…let it.
Don’t feel guilty or obligated because of the past.
They will feel the closure. 

You will start to feel this urge to purge on a regular basis.
It is another part of this new energy.
Not everything will make the cut!
You are going to become VERY selective, 
and the things that do , will hold meaning and purpose.
They will make you feel good, not guilty.
It is about becoming lighter, and all this baggage will become too heavy
to carry thru these coming days.

Give into this urge to purge!
You cannot fly without it!

I’ve just come from seeing the movie “Gravity”.
Man! To say Space is foreboding and dangerous, is a huge understatement!
The film really is a spectacle of special effects that are at once spellbinding and dread inducing.

After turning the movie over in my mind, one of the most terrifying
aspects that occurred at the beginning of the story, was the fact that they went 
“off line”.
Houston was no longer in their ear, giving them permission to move here or there.
They were not able to tell them what to do, or more importantly, to help them.

The astronauts kept talking into their headsets, just in case, but they would always preface it:
“Houston in the blind” 
Because they could only see what was right in front of them, they were blind to the bigger picture.

It occurred to me we all feel at times like God or source energy or spirit is Houston, and communications have been lost.

We could all start our prayers “Houston in the blind, this is Janet, I could use some help here”!
Without that communication thru meditation, prayer, or whatever way it is that you communicate with God, we are adrift, just trying our best to figure things out as they come.

Houston has suggestions,
Houston sees the bigger picture,
Houston has solutions,
Houston can lead you away from danger,
Houston has the soothing voice that reassures
And can keep you safe,
But you must keep your communications channels open, or you may as well be in the silent vacuum of space.

I think from now on, when I feel alone and lost, I will sit quietly for a few minutes and search 
my internal dial for that reassuring sound of Houston in my ear, guiding me home.

Xox Janet