guidance

Are you proud of yourself? Of the life you’re leading?
If you’re not, what can you do to correct that?

Some of you have never felt pride in yourselves or your accomplishments.
You have never thought about yourself, or walked thru the world with a sense of pride.
What WE mean by that is, many of you don’t want to seems full of yourselves,
So you self deprecate, almost to a fault.

Now, this can be a tightrope topic.

Look at the definitions of PROUD especially the second one, and LOOK at those synonyms!

PROUD
proud/
adjective
1.
feeling deep pleasure or satisfaction as a result of one’s own achievements, qualities, or possessions or those of someone with whom one is closely associated.
“a proud grandma of three boys”
synonyms: pleased, glad, happy, delighted, joyful, overjoyed, thrilled, satisfied, gratified, content More
antonyms: ashamed
(of an event, achievement, etc.) causing someone to feel this way.
“we have a proud history of innovation”
synonyms: pleasing, gratifying, satisfying, cheering, heartwarming; More
antonyms: shameful
2.
having or showing a high or excessively high opinion of oneself or one’s importance.
“a proud, arrogant man”
having or showing a consciousness of one’s own dignity.
“I was too proud to go home”
SYNONYMS: arrogant, conceited, vain, self-important, full of oneself, puffed up, jumped-up, smug, complacent, disdainful, condescending, scornful, supercilious, snobbish, imperious, pompous, overbearing, bumptious, haughty; More
antonyms: humble, modest
imposing; splendid.
“bulrushes emerge tall and proud from the middle of the pond”
synonyms: magnificent, splendid, resplendent, grand, noble, stately, imposing, dignified, striking, impressive, majestic, glorious, awe-inspiring, awesome, 

Having pride and being proud of yourself has gotten a bad name.
You can appear to be the MOST humble soul on the planet.
But we want you to FEEL proud of yourselves on the INSIDE.
These feelings are not mutually exclusive. You can be humble and feel pride.

We would like you to realize your value, and feel how valuable your life is.
We trust that you will not go off the deep end with this.
Even the people that seem to be all puffed up and boastful 
are a facade.
They overcompensate for their real, hidden feelings of inferiority.

So we’d like to give you an assignment.
Find one thing in your life that you’re doing currently that gives
you a sense of pride inside.
If you don’t know what that feels like, look at the first definition above for help.
Feelings of pleasure,satisfaction,and gratification.

Even if it’s as simple as opening the door for someone,
or giving a homeless man a dollar.
Did you purge and give all your boxes to a charity?
Did you call and wish someone a happy birthday?
Maybe you let someone ahead of you in the checkout line.

Seriously, start there.
These do not have to be huge, we just want you to look for that feeling inside.
After you find this feeling, you will become addicted to it.
You will begin to search for ways to feel that satisfaction with yourself.
And believe us when we say, it becomes contagious.
When you walk thru the world behaving with a sense of pride,
your actions will follow, others will start to “pay it forward”
and this will start a chain reaction.

You will single handedly change the way the world views 
Pride and being Proud.
Well done! We’re proud of you 😉

(This is always a hard one)

“You are not your mind, your emotions or the circumstances of your life. You are the peaceful observer of your mind and emotions that allows life circumstances to pass through and around you for your evolution to finally come to a place of total acceptance of all that is. Only the peaceful observer remains after all else fades away. Only the peaceful observer in total acceptance of what is can take action towards effectively changing anything. You are only this peaceful observer – everything else is as fleeting as the blink of an eye, choose happiness and don’t buy into it.”

– Jackson Kiddard

Many of you are finding yourselves with the urge to purge!
What we mean by that is, you are thinning things out,
Getting rid of the superfluous things in your life.

This can be junk around the house.
A cluttered office or garage, that has sat that way for years,
suddenly becomes too much to tolerate any longer!
You are open to throwing away things that had “sentimental value”.
Somehow, they no longer have that hold on you.

It’s happening with people too.
And that’s okay.
You’re finding yourself being fine with the fact that you haven’t seen someone 
in ages.
You’re actually better than fine, you’re vaguely relieved.
The effort it takes to find commonality in your conversations,
seems like a waste of time.
We don’t mean that in a cruel way,
it’s just that time seems more precious,
and the people that you spend it with have to feel good.
No more going thru the motions just to be polite.

There is a benefit here.
As you set these old acquaintances aside, 
they will feel set free as well.
It takes a lot of energy to maintain a relationship that has run its course.
It is psychically exhausting.
If it fades away…let it.
Don’t feel guilty or obligated because of the past.
They will feel the closure. 

You will start to feel this urge to purge on a regular basis.
It is another part of this new energy.
Not everything will make the cut!
You are going to become VERY selective, 
and the things that do , will hold meaning and purpose.
They will make you feel good, not guilty.
It is about becoming lighter, and all this baggage will become too heavy
to carry thru these coming days.

Give into this urge to purge!
You cannot fly without it!

I’ve just come from seeing the movie “Gravity”.
Man! To say Space is foreboding and dangerous, is a huge understatement!
The film really is a spectacle of special effects that are at once spellbinding and dread inducing.

After turning the movie over in my mind, one of the most terrifying
aspects that occurred at the beginning of the story, was the fact that they went 
“off line”.
Houston was no longer in their ear, giving them permission to move here or there.
They were not able to tell them what to do, or more importantly, to help them.

The astronauts kept talking into their headsets, just in case, but they would always preface it:
“Houston in the blind” 
Because they could only see what was right in front of them, they were blind to the bigger picture.

It occurred to me we all feel at times like God or source energy or spirit is Houston, and communications have been lost.

We could all start our prayers “Houston in the blind, this is Janet, I could use some help here”!
Without that communication thru meditation, prayer, or whatever way it is that you communicate with God, we are adrift, just trying our best to figure things out as they come.

Houston has suggestions,
Houston sees the bigger picture,
Houston has solutions,
Houston can lead you away from danger,
Houston has the soothing voice that reassures
And can keep you safe,
But you must keep your communications channels open, or you may as well be in the silent vacuum of space.

I think from now on, when I feel alone and lost, I will sit quietly for a few minutes and search 
my internal dial for that reassuring sound of Houston in my ear, guiding me home.

Xox Janet

It is very important that you are impeccable with your thoughts.
They are the propulsion behind the trajectory of your life.

If you are sloppy, your life will reflect that.
The same applies if you are fearful or timid.
It will feel as if you’re living a half life.

What you want to watch out for, are the thoughts that 
are self sabotaging.
They slow down your momentum.
Momentum is what you’re after these days.

Keep your thoughts focused on your desires,
with the finish line in your sights.
Paying very close attention to how you feel.
Do you go through most of your day feeling
empowered? Or defeated?
Do you feel as if the Universe works with you?
Or against you?
Do your desires seem attainable to you?
What is the first step in that direction?

The energy these days can really amp up the momentum behind
your desires.
It can act like a slingshot, helping you to reach maximum velocity.
All you have to do is monitor your thoughts and feelings.
Are you adding to that momentum, because
Negativity and self doubt acts like drag, it slows things down.

When you wonder why things are taking so long to manifest,
look no further than your own energy, your own thoughts,
then take some time to become impeccable.

Good Morning!

So many of you are living in emotional pain and anxiety
because you are trying to maintain a toxic family relationship.
And many of these are very one sided, YOU are the only one trying.

It is true that blood is thicker than water, but the blood that runs thru your veins
gives you life.
so does water.
Now water can also destroy. 
So can blood.
Just because someone is blood related does not give them the license
to destroy you.
To berate you,
To physically or emotionally hurt you,
To undermine you,
To withhold love intentionally.

A lot of you give them a pass.
Because they are family, they feel they have your undying allegiance,
And with that trust they manipulate you and cause you pain.
THAT is not love.

Whether it is your mom or dad, sister or brother, you must end that allegiance
when there is a lack of love and acceptance.
You all have harsh judges in your lives, they should not be your family.
Because if that happens as you grow and mature, 
and you feel you can never do or be enough, 
that translates into adulthood as self doubt, 
self loathing, 
constant feelings of inadequacy 
and total lack of self confidence.

We are advocating love and acceptance of these family members for who they are.
They may never change.
You may even find it in your heart to forgive.
But you must not tether your heart to people who do not deserve
that trust.

Chasing after the love of a parent will translate into a lifetime of chasing love.

You are better than that!
Your heart is precious and should be cherished.
Please know that, and honor yourself to the extent that 
You can step out of a hurtful family situation.

They are blood, but they are not your real family.
Your real family will uplift you,
They will love you even if you stumble.
They do not seek to humiliate or bully you.
They practice unconditional love.
Find THOSE people, and make THEM your family!