The Holidays—And Heart Holding
The holidays can be haaaaard you guys. And as much as I’d love to sugar coat it—I can’t.
I know, they can also be full of joy and wonder.
But when they’re not—when you’re just struggling to keep your head above water because of a health crisis, or a death, divorce, or something else unimaginable has you down for the count—it is helpful to remember (at least it is for me) that no matter how famous you are, how much money you have, or influence you peddle, or how many self-help processes you keep in your back pocket, at some point, THEY WILL GET YOU DOWN.
Here in California, the wildfires that raged a mere two weeks ago have left a literal shroud hanging over the state. So many people have lost so much it’s hard to fathom feeling much Ho, Ho, Ho.
My BFF is navigating a mother who is deep into her Alzheimer’s long goodbye, and although she’s maintaining a stiff lip and a brave face, I can feel her sadness all the way from the Great Northwest.
I’ve felt wonky for the past few months which led to me seeing a cardiologist about an arrhythmia caused by a jacked-up thyroid. As somebody who usually runs circles around the holidays, this “health situation” had made me feel anxious, vulnerable, and introspective. The old adage, “If you don’t have your health, you have nothing”, has turned from a blah, blah, blah thing that old people say—to the god’s honest truth.
So, in a nutshell, I’ve really had nothing funny or uplifting to say. (As a sidenote it must be said that if I lose my sense of humor, it’s time to take me to the doctor.)
Then, the other day, I came across this picture on Liz Gilbert’s social media and it gutted me. This is her first holiday season without her beloved Raya, and it shows her seeking solace in the lap of her friend Martha Beck. I stared at it for a long time, crying the ugly cry because, number one—I’d been holding onto a lot of fear around my health and it felt good to let it all out, and number two—when I saw it, it reminded me of pretty much everyone I know right now, including, perhaps, The Statue of Liberty. It reminds me of exhausted surrender. A place I initially have a hard time finding–but know well.
Then, on Wednesday, Liz wrote this and I wanted to share it with you.
THIS I can do. I can hold the hearts who are hurting in my heart ( just as long as y’all don’t mind a bumpy ride!) You are not alone. You are not misunderstood. We can do this.
Let’s all hold each other hearts. We’ll know when it’s safe to let go. We’re gonna be alright.
I love you.
Carry on,
xox
Holding your heart in my heart if this is your first Thanksgiving after the death of a loved one.
Holding your heart in my heart if this is your first Thanksgiving after a divorce.
Holding your heart in my heart if you can’t be with your family this year.
Holding your heart in my heart if you are estranged from your family.
Holding your heart in my heart if you have a family member serving in the military, or if you yourself are serving.
Holding your heart in my heart if you have to work today.
Holding your heart in my heart if you a missing a loved one at your table today because of addiction or mental illness or sickness or anger.
Holding your heart in my heart if this is your first Thanksgiving in sobriety.
Holding your heart in my heart if you struggle with food, and you feel like nobody understands.
Holding your heart in my heart if family holidays bring up nothing but memories of suffering for you.
Holding your heart in my heart if you are alone, or if you are just feeling alone in the crowd.
Holding your heart in my heart today, all day long. Holidays aren’t always easy. But you are loved. Please know that you are loved.
Unclench your fist and lay your hand on your heart. It’s all gonna be alright.
We love you.
❤️LG
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